How to Thaw Your Unborn Children — Update

Dear Readers of Thaw: I’ll be spending some time over the next few weeks working out a book proposal to some literary agents. My Thaw series has something of a bloggy feel (as it should, it’s a blog after all) and I’ve got to make some adjustments before submitting to the great Publishing Monolith. The […]

How to Thaw Your Unborn Children, Part 14

“I like this one,” Lynn said.  “He looks like a really nice person.” “He looks like the manager of Taco Bell,” I said. Lynn said, “Do you want a nice person or do you want some mathematical asshole?”  (she did not say “mathematical asshole.”) We spent a long time talking about what makes a person […]

How to Thaw Your Unborn Children, Part 13

In the spring of 2006 I stood in the hallway of PS 261, an elementary school in Brooklyn, whispering into my cell phone with a representative from Xytex Cryo International, a sperm bank headquartered in Augusta, Georgia. It was my lunch break, I had a few minutes, and I had finally worked up the nerve. […]

How to Thaw Your Unborn Children, Part 12

When Lynn and I first got together, we had sex constantly. We’d do it before we went to sleep. We’d wake each other up in the middle of the night and then do it again first thing in the morning and continue on through the morning and early afternoon. By four o’clock in the afternoon […]

How to Thaw Your Unborn Children, Part 11

Readers, I am not allowed to write about my sexual relationship with my spouse.  Who knew that she was reading along all this time, quietly suffering the horror of knowing that any day or week or month she could be this site’s next unsuspecting victim. “I don’t want you to write about our sex life,” […]

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How to Thaw Your Unborn Children, Part 9

I’ve been thinking a lot these days about what it means to feel uncomfortable.  Is it really so bad to feel bad?  Why are so many people conflict avoidant?  What does it mean when we brush up against each other the wrong way, and what would happen if we forced ourselves, just once in a […]

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How to Thaw Your Unborn Children, Part 8A

When I left my husband, it was because I had an affair with a woman. I loved my husband a lot, and we had a great time in the bedroom, too, but I’m of the opinion that you can pretty much teach a monkey to do the stuff you need for your body to ride […]

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How to Thaw Your Unborn Children, Part 6

Forgive me dear readers, this one is quite rough.  I’ve made a decision to publish, but it’s still very much a draft.  I apologize if you trip over syntax.  ABZ Back in the day before my mind was cured completely, I used to see this therapist named Jan Schreiber. I’ve seen lots of therapists in […]

How to Thaw Your Unborn Children, Part 5

After I left Moira, I got a studio apartment around the corner from where she lived, but since this was in Park Slope, Brooklyn, I might as well have moved to Chicago. Blocks change drastically in a city. I didn’t see Moira or the baby very often, which was painful, but it was often more […]

How to Thaw Your Unborn Children, Part 4

Readers, here’s the next installment of a long piece about how I first lost a baby to another mother, and eventually defrosted three of my own.  Do let me know what you think, as I welcome and love comments.     I loved that baby mightily. I carried her up and down the stairs in […]

How to Thaw Your Unborn Children, Part 3

Still a rough cut here, so bear with me.  I feel it’s important to provide you with this material just as I write it, to ensure that I hold myself accountable to posting personal essays to you each and every week.  Please let me know if you think something is poorly constructed or inaccurately characterized. […]

How to Thaw Your Unborn Children, Part 2

This is part 2 of a longer personal narrative about divorce, coming out, and ordering your offspring from an online catalogue.  It’s a rough cut and will be subject to many drafts and versions before completion.  Do let me know what you think, and if you like the piece, I would appreciate it if you […]

How to Thaw Your Unborn Children, Part 1

Dearest Readers, Here’s the first part of a longer book I’m working on about the process of making your family via artificial insemination. Ever since I was a kid, I’d wanted to have a kid. When I was nine years old and in the fourth grade, I used to play a game called Birth on […]